First Mothers Day.

mothers daySo today is my FIRST MOTHERS DAY (eeeeeeeeeee happy baby whale sound) and I have a very sick little baby at the moment! I only clocked in 3 hours sleep but some how I am still full of ….um…uh LIFE? (haha) But it’s my FIRST MOTHERS DAY, and we will still celebrate !

I have never been this excited before, and I am not even sure why? Maybe its because I find being a mom to be such an honor, and to celebrate that with my gorgeous family is just the BEST feeling in the world. I think its awesome that a day like today gets everyone to stop “collaborate and listen”  (I had too!) , pause , reflect on their moms intentionally. Being a mom is a full on, full time job (24 / 7) yet it is the most rewarding thing that I have ever done. I think every mom would agree with me when I say there is nothing quite like a mothers love! I could go, on and on – but lets move on shall we?

I was told to wait in the bedroom this morning with Malakai until my husband aka “Gordon Ramsy(the edited version) was finished cooking up a storm in the kitchen! (The smell of bacon-DROOL ).It was the worth wait! My husband laid out a beautiful spread (Go Rash!) flowers every where (protea’s and baby’s breath) , all fitting a colour scheme of course, juice in fancy glasses, candles , music playing (You name it – it was there). I was also spoilt with thee most amazing gift, that I will cherish FOREVER, a gorgeous locket with a picture of my two favourite boys ; Rash and Malakai (heart melt). Rash thank you for making my FIRST (of many) Mothers Day so special  for me , you truly went above and beyond ❤ Malakai said it was all his idea, but he delegated all the work to you? (Good team work) ha ha

MOTHERS DAY 1 Locket

On Mothers Day , Malakai I want you to know :

▪  That I love you above and beyond. FULL STOP.
▪  I am proud of literally EVERYTHING you do! (NO JOKES!)
▪  I am in awe of how you observe everything around you.
▪  I love how your nose crinkles and your cheeks look like they could possibly explode off of your face from smiling or laughing!
▪  I love that you are so friendly and warm towards all sorts of people.
▪  I love how you started pulling this “cheesy fake smile”, and start breathing like mini dragon when you want me to pass you something!
▪  I love how, just before I put you to sleep at night, you smile and stroke my face when I kiss you goodnight.( My Favourite)
▪  I love it when you do this dramatic sigh, when you’re tired or bored.
▪  I love it when you literally some times talk / sing yourself to sleep.
▪  I love how you leopard crawl towards (aka chase)  “Cutie” the cat, because you are so determined to have her love you! (One day she will give in)
▪  You are gentle, you are definitely loving, you are friendly, you are funny, you are VERY charming , and you are SO sweet!
▪  I am SO proud to be YOUR MOM ❤

Malakai & Mom 1 Malakai & Mom 4

I am so grateful to have thee most amazing mom, who loves us so passionately! There is nothing quite like a “Greek Mama’s” love! She has been my BIGGEST cheerleader, and has always been there for me! I love how she is a mom figure too many ! (Literally)  I’ve also been blessed with a beautiful mother in law who raised amazing children – ‘yummy mummy’ Rish (who I adore and admire) Adam the ‘super star’ and of course my absolute favorite Rasheed who is a rocking dad, a romantic husband and all rounded creative genius! I feel so blessed to have such strong women in my life, that inspire me on a daily basis! Love you all!

Today, was a special day for me! I LOVED every moment of it! From our family breakfast with a snotty coughing yet smiling baby, to a home cooked family lunch made my Italian Stallion dad ! Rasheed and Malakai you are two of the greatest , and I love you to the moon and back and then some! Thanks for a very memorable Mothers Day!

My mom, Brother,Malakai & I Mom & I

Weekend away with a baby

weekend away featureSo over the long weekend we had a “mini get away” with friends to Wortelgat with a 7 month old teething baby (Eak). Malakai is a very chilled, relaxed baby and is quite content with new unfamiliar faces, he is friendly and is always smiling at the ladies (Hmm need to keep my eye on that) However when our good old friend “teething” makes it rounds its leaves Malakai a little uncomfortable, moody, and quite vocal about it too! So , I was a little nervous to take him away with us (not like I would leave him at home or anything) Nervous because teething leaves him feeling very uncomfortable, irritable and unpredictable. Babies are unpredictable in general, they always keep you guessing like a game of charades! (Baby charades) But none the less, as they say “YOLO”, we took the plunge / cheered ourselves on (aka mentally prepared ourselves) and started planning all of our essentials that we would need for the weekend away with friends. Its not as simple as putting the baby in the car and going, you have to consider what will he/she sleep in, what solids are they eating and at what times, sterilize bottles, have enough diapers and change of clothes, medicine kit , are there enough toys and goodies to keep a crawling baby entertained? etc and OH don’t forget to pack for yourself! (haha) Once all of that is organized , you are pretty much good to go.

One of my besties Rene is getting married soon – so her and her fiancé planned a weekend get away for the bridal party and their partners close to their wedding venue. Their wedding venue De Uijlenes is absolutely gorgeous! I want to describe it in detail so badly for you BUT I don’t want to give away any surprises for the guests! It makes me SO excited for them and their big day! I have the HONOR of being the “maid of honor” (Woohoo,the chosen one haha) for my beautiful friend Rene, and my heart can’t contain my excitement for this new chapter that her and Hein are about to embark on! Obviously we had to practice our “bridesmaids with the bride pose”. 

Check out our poses:

The GirlsThe suns in our eyes smile!1,2,3…...We did it!

We love going away, and having some down time. There’s something about being out of your house, out of routine, away from technology and letting the soul recharge and rest. We packed the car, as in our WHOLE house (literally) We ended up borrowing my dad’s 4×4, and filled it to the brim with baby essentials (camping cot, walking ring , toys galore, bottle sterilizer, microwave – Yip you heard me a MICROWAVE because the house we were staying at did not have one,the house was solar power which in essence meant the microwave kept draining all the power – therefore no microwave sterilizing of bottles. BUT good old fashioned boiling hot water over a gas stove and hoping for the best! “Moms got to do what a moms got to do” And it worked ! He survived! Good to know for future trips). I feel like I am always learning new things as a mom! Any moms with me on that one?

Malakai slept for the whole drive up (Good boy) which was about 3 hours, had to change his diaper in the car, feed him while we were driving around in the actual town. (Multitasking to the max) But once we got out of the car I could see he was so intrigued and just loving the outdoors. (The smells, and sights) and he absolutely LOVED all the attention he received from all of the friends! He loved it so much that he didn’t want to nap . (Oops) He just loved looking at the gorgeous view from his walking ring, and loved chilling on the grass doing tummy time! I think the sights, and company of fun friends distracted him from his teething too be honest, yes he was a little niggly but that he didn’t stop him from smiling and socializing! (Little champ) There were one or two moments where he was struggling a bit with his teething and was very grump, tired and struggling to take naps – thats when I took him to a quiet room and did my best to help comfort him until he FINALLY fell asleep. I always used to feel bad when Malakai would cry or be upset in front of others, not sure why – maybe I was worried if it bothered others,or it could relate to his Colic days and me being anxious all the time (more on that later) But in those moments I remind myself he is only a baby and crying is his only way of communicating with me about how he feels, and I must just love him.

Malakai and Mom KissesMalakaiMalakai enjoying natureMy FavsMy boys

Traveling with a baby is a little bit of a challenge, but once you get going and just do it – it becomes another thing you can add to your “mom belt” of things you’ve achieved and know its doable. And its so worth it making that extra effort, and forcing yourself to go away with your little family – everyone ends up benefiting from it. Just because you have a kid it doesn’t mean that your life should stop, they become apart of your world just as much as you become part of their world. It was so special sharing this gorgeous view with Malakai, and with our friends. I feel so BLESSED living in such a beautiful city (Cape Town)  that has so many hidden gems waiting to be discovered!

Wortelgat Lake 2Wortelgat LakeWortelgat View 2Wortelgat View

 

Pics taken by my talented hubby Rash Ferguson who does all sorts of creative free lance work from design,to video editing to branding you name it!  (Check out his work)

 

 

& Breathe

I think every relationship between a mom and child is unique and is different. (As it should be)We as moms are actually growing in our capacity (to love,manage our time,etc) as our children grow and develop. I had no idea that I would have the capacity to juggle working full time, and being a mom , a wife, a friend and serve where I can at church.

Some days feel like an “Amazing Race” just to get out the front door in time for work. There are some days where I am so tired, that I am not even sure if I am awake or a sleep or dreaming. (haha) But then I feel so inspired to know that God knew what I was capable of carrying, and I am sure he will add more to my load knowing that I can handle it. And handle it well. (woohoo)

{Refocus}

Being a mom is challenging but it is truly thee most rewarding thing we could ever do! Sometimes moms let the challenging side of it get too them, and they forget to focus on all the good things that comes with being a mom. Of course there are going to be “those days”, where you just want to cry because you’re so tired (that’s happened to me a few times) or you just want to hide some where like in cave like Gollum.But then maybe in those moments take a “time out” moments.

  • Have a bath if you’re into that (with chocolate) or a shower. (chocolate optional) 
  • Go to bed early. (Extra sleep -if possible-where possible can do wonders for the soul)
  • Journal what you’re feeling (Often journaling helps to reveal personal insight and revelation)
  • Speak to a friend (Friends are there to encourage, support you)
  • Schedule time to do something that you enjoy doing.

Remember a refreshed mom – means a happy baby, and more love to give. And lastly but probably the most important of them all is be GRATEFUL for the season you’re in, don’t wish it away – be thankful for your child . A heart that is grateful, often starts to feel a sense of motivation and a refreshing sense of focus – because you remember that there is purpose behind what you do. You are a mom blessed with thee most gorgeous child that loves you no matter what, that relies on you to feel loved, to feel special, to be fed, bathed, changed, to be taught the ropes.  (Refocus) What an honour !!!

{That Mom}

I love those moms, who are honest about where they are at as a mom. I love moms who are relaxed as they discovering this “mom world”. (They don’t let the pressures or expectations of being a mom get to them,they laugh it off and approach it one day at a time) I love those moms who encourage you , cheer you and your child on. I love the moms who have a good sense of humour about parenting. (They know when to laugh at themselves) Those are the moms I allow to speak into my world, those are the moms I love sharing stories with and giggle with.Those moms add strength to my world, and encourage me to keep on going with my head held high and with a smile on my face! Find those moms, they are out there!

You too can be that mom, just breath, refocus & keep on going!

x

 

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Malakai & Mom